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THE HIDDEN COSTS OF SEX WORK

Truly, my biggest problem with sex work is that it is not the highest and best use of a woman’s time, effort, and assets. There are much more efficient ways to achieve a long-term relationship, marriage, and financial prosperity that doesn’t involve giving away one’s feminine energy to the undeserving. Focus on what’s important, be your own person, have your own interests, pursue a worthwhile career, be open to potential partners, and don’t limit yourself by getting into situations you don’t fully understand the costs of. And this goes for all things in life: school, career, relationships, etc., 

WHY WE LOVE COTTAGECORE

Cottagecore is an aesthetic/lifestyle marked by feminine, often whimsical attire, domestic activities such as baking, cooking, picnics, tea parties, gardening, and sewing. Overall, the aesthetic has a deep emphasis in nature and the home. In short, it is making homemaking cool again.  It is no surprise that cottagecore emerged as a cohesive aesthetic during such […]

SELF-ANALYSIS: A CURE FOR PEOPLE PLEASING

part of ourselves to ensure harmony. There are two sides to this: A) being part of a group ensures we do not act on harmful pleasure-driven desires that will compromise the wellbeing of ourselves and the group and B) we are socialized to self-censor so as to appease others. Sometimes, this is to the detriment of our authenticity and integrity. One thing is for sure: we must find a balance between being a good community member and being our authentic self.

WHAT IS MANIFESTELLE?

Manifestelle is a blog dedicated to helping women get the best and most in life. There are many things that make a woman, and the blog aims to cover the many ways we can improve how we are on the inside as well as how we present ourselves to the world. This blog focuses on the power of the individual to shape her own life no matter her past or current circumstances. Everything is relative so only you know what is best for yourself. Only you know what an improvement in quality of life is. Only you know what the best and most in life looks for you.

MASCULINITY IS NOT TOXIC

en being discouraged to show emotions aka “male inexpressivity.” In short, toxic masculinity was a term used to highlight the toxic aspects of what life for men has become after the shift from agricultural living.

LIFE HAS SEASONS

I was having brunch with my dear friend one Sunday morning and we were discussing how our lives now are quite different from before, how we didn’t expect things to be like this, how we would like to go back to what was before. And then, I was reminded that life has seasons, and the […]

A LADY GETS DRESSED

Perhaps the most outward sign of being a lady is one’s appearance. Many women believe that to dress like a lady is to wear frilly or restrictive or hyper-modest clothing. The reality is a lady dresses with respect for herself and for others while still communicating her refined style and carefree outlook in life. For a lady, the finer things in life are normal. Her clothes need not be expensive but must be of good quality and of classic lines to ensure timelessness. A lady knows that her outfits are only a preview of herself as a person, and although her fashion sense is very important, it is her character that further draws people in. 

MONEY MINDSET

Having one’s financial house in order is key to getting the best and most out of life. It is difficult to live in prosperity when one’s life is one missed paycheck away from ruins.

Your money is on you. Although it is on trend to blame “the system” for our financial woes, most problems we have with money is due to our poor decision making. Sure, financial systems exploit our tendency to make bad decisions, but you have the power of consent in these matters. Credit card companies didn’t buy luxury items for you and racked up thousands of dollars in debt that you pay the minimum on. Student loan companies didn’t drag you to an overpriced university to study a high-unemployment low-wage major. Take ownership of your decisions now so you can make better ones and see how much power you have in changing the course of your finances.

YOU MAY RESERVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE NO OPINION

In an era of social media activism when almost everyone is a champion for some cause, when “silence is violence,” when “being silent is being complicit,” etc. It seems that we are presented with no choice but to take the side of whatever peer group we desire to belong to or want to stay a part of. Deviation from prescribed thoughts/opinions get us booted from social groups we have based our identities on so we like/share/repost/retweet whatever well-designed graphic influential peer group-approved accounts share on social media.

YOUR _ IS NOT YOUR IDENTITY

The only permanent thing in this world is change. Nothing will stay the way it is and that is okay. What is not okay is fixating your self-value on transient things such as good looks, money, and status. One day those things will be gone, then what is left for you to derive joy from? Although it is good to acknowledge and be grateful for good things that have passed, there is usually a sense of loss when these good things actually do pass.

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