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NORMALIZED MONEY HABITS THAT SHOULD NOT BE NORMAL

Influencers have definitely impacted consumer culture in a most profound way. Not only do we willingly subject ourselves to advertising, we look forward to it because our favorite influencers are doing the product pushing. We go on instagram, admire other people’s lives and a small voice in the back of our heads tell us that if only we dressed the same way they did or did our hair the same, we too could be living in a neutral modern organic McMansion with a white marble top and farmhouse sink with our perfectly imperfect families. The thing is, although this does sound like a wonderful thing to have, by unnecessarily consuming such advertisement and living an excessively consumeristic lifestyle, we get farther behind our goals of achieving financial prosperity that would afford us our dream McMansion (or better yet, a modest yet tastefully decorated home). 

YOUR SAFETY > “EQUALITY”

As someone who considers herself quite self-efficacious and headstrong, I have learned over time that the world is a dangerous place. I traveled Europe alone, went clubbing in Las Vegas alone, basically put my safety on the line in order to prove the point that I was a strong, independent woman. Sure, I felt “liberated” at the time, but looking back, I was very lucky nothing of consequence happened. I think my family did a great job of sheltering me from the ills of the world. I was always looked after, checked up on, we lived in neighborhoods where I didn’t fear for my safety (for the most part). The thing is, this cocoon I grew up in made me ignorantly bold. I thought that because I could handle myself in Orange County, I can take on gritty nightclubs in Bali. Such is not the reality for anyone, and unfortunately, this is not the reality for the countless women who suffered the grave consequences of accepting messages telling them that being a modern woman means putting themselves in dangerous situations to prove that they can “handle themselves.”

RULES FOR THEE BUT NOT FOR ME

The past year has taught us many lessons, and one of them is discernment. Due to the openness social media has afforded all of us, we are now, more than ever, so conscious of the divide between the quality of life of those above, below, and with us on a socioeconomic level.

I DON’T DREAM OF LABOR NOR SLOTH

You may have encountered the “I don’t dream of labor” type of content, and while it does go against the  potentially toxic hustle culture, it may create another toxic culture of its own. Many content creators have offered up their own interpretations of  not dreaming about labor, but many do not communicate that a life of leisure built on a weak foundation is not sustainable and is even harmful to ourselves and others. 

WOMEN IN STEM: A WOMAN’S CHOICE

As with everything going on in our current culture, the field of STEM careers is not impervious to calls for “diversity” and “equity.” Studies showing employment and pay gaps in men and women in STEM careers prompted the blaming of STEM as an institution that discriminates against women. Here’s a few thoughts:

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THE ROI OF STUDENT DEBT

Student debt looms over many young Americans’ lives. It is delaying young people from building wealth, starting families, and is overall weighing them down. The irony here is that formal education should be propelling young people up, not chaining them to high-interest high-principal payments. There is this notion that more schooling = more income = higher quality of life. In reality, there are many factors to consider when weighing schooling decisions.

How do you envision your life? Where do you want to live? Do you want a family? What lifestyle will you be most comfortable in? What are you willing to give up to achieve this life? What are you not willing to give up?

THE HIDDEN COSTS OF SEX WORK

Truly, my biggest problem with sex work is that it is not the highest and best use of a woman’s time, effort, and assets. There are much more efficient ways to achieve a long-term relationship, marriage, and financial prosperity that doesn’t involve giving away one’s feminine energy to the undeserving. Focus on what’s important, be your own person, have your own interests, pursue a worthwhile career, be open to potential partners, and don’t limit yourself by getting into situations you don’t fully understand the costs of. And this goes for all things in life: school, career, relationships, etc., 

WHY WE LOVE COTTAGECORE

Cottagecore is an aesthetic/lifestyle marked by feminine, often whimsical attire, domestic activities such as baking, cooking, picnics, tea parties, gardening, and sewing. Overall, the aesthetic has a deep emphasis in nature and the home. In short, it is making homemaking cool again.  It is no surprise that cottagecore emerged as a cohesive aesthetic during such […]

SELF-ANALYSIS: A CURE FOR PEOPLE PLEASING

part of ourselves to ensure harmony. There are two sides to this: A) being part of a group ensures we do not act on harmful pleasure-driven desires that will compromise the wellbeing of ourselves and the group and B) we are socialized to self-censor so as to appease others. Sometimes, this is to the detriment of our authenticity and integrity. One thing is for sure: we must find a balance between being a good community member and being our authentic self.

WHAT IS MANIFESTELLE?

Manifestelle is a blog dedicated to helping women get the best and most in life. There are many things that make a woman, and the blog aims to cover the many ways we can improve how we are on the inside as well as how we present ourselves to the world. This blog focuses on the power of the individual to shape her own life no matter her past or current circumstances. Everything is relative so only you know what is best for yourself. Only you know what an improvement in quality of life is. Only you know what the best and most in life looks for you.

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