PRETTY PRIVILEGE

As we go through our physical world, we see that the world we live in is not fair. Life confers advantages on others but confers disadvantages on us. But one of the advantages we can confer on ourselves is the “pretty privilege,” aka the attractiveness privilege. A scholar described the attractiveness privilege as an “unearned” advantage. But I beg to differ. One does not become attractive with no effort. With luck, yes, but with no effort? Being attractive takes work. Those who say otherwise are participating in the collective sour graping of those deemed unattractive. So what are the advantages of having pretty privilege?

We are perceived as more likable. Humans are judgmental creatures. We make snap decisions to save our brain power for more complex processes. This is why we are wired to make quick judgments. Attractive people are seen as more confident and competent in the work place. I credit this to the positive connotations of good grooming and effort placed on looks. If someone is taking the time to eat well, exercise, groom themselves, and practice restraint from food, drugs, and sloth, they must be a good worker. Same goes for when we date or meet people in general. 

We get “free” stuff. This may only apply to interactions with men, but attractive women almost always get their way. We get free drinks, free stuff, free access, etc. I know these things are not “free” per se. We already paid for them with our looks. Attractiveness is a commodity. A tool that we use to pay for things we otherwise would have to pay for with cash. 

We date higher value men. We can deny it all we want, but the truth is that men look for attractiveness in women just as much as women look for security and stability in men. The more attractive you are, the more stability and security you can get. And I mean “stability and security” in terms of finances and commitment, both of which only high value men can offer you. If you keep dating men who don’t offer these things, either you are not attractive enough or you keep picking below your attractiveness level. Either way, you have work to do. 

You may or may not be enjoying the attractiveness privilege now. But if you have not been enjoying it before, and suddenly experience a “glow up,” you’ll start realizing that people treat you better. I can tell you from experience that my social interactions were less than stellar when I was 20 lbs heavier than I am now. After losing all that weight, I started re-enjoying the privileges conferred by my efforts to be attractive. We are wired to like beautiful people, so why not exploit this human condition for your gain? 

XOXO

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